Comments on: Worrying about what Other People Think? http://www.thethoughts.co.uk/thoughts/worrying-about-what-other-people-think/ Spiritual and Self Development Mon, 15 Aug 2011 23:10:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: jake http://www.thethoughts.co.uk/thoughts/worrying-about-what-other-people-think/comment-page-1/#comment-401 jake Thu, 28 Feb 2008 05:22:34 +0000 http://www.thethoughts.co.uk/thoughts/worrying-about-what-other-people-think/#comment-401 from my own experience, worrying what other people think caused me to distance further from others. The act of worrying what others think is in effect trying to think for other people, so ultimately you are judging yourself. How could you even know what others think - so why worry about it. I have found a similar effect in other types of relationships and human interaction. Essentially, be happy with yourself in everything you do, and others will be happy with you to. This should be easy if you are following the right path.......... For example - I used to stare at myself in the mirror wondering if women find me attractive. Then I would pick myself apart until I was effectively no longer attractive. I would act stupid to avoid rejection, because I was afraid they wouldn't find me attractive. The bottom line is, yes they did find me attractive, but because I worried myself into thinking they wouldn't, I had essentially made myself unattractive to them. from my own experience, worrying what other people think caused me to distance further from others. The act of worrying what others think is in effect trying to think for other people, so ultimately you are judging yourself. How could you even know what others think – so why worry about it.

I have found a similar effect in other types of relationships and human interaction. Essentially, be happy with yourself in everything you do, and others will be happy with you to. This should be easy if you are following the right path……….

For example – I used to stare at myself in the mirror wondering if women find me attractive. Then I would pick myself apart until I was effectively no longer attractive. I would act stupid to avoid rejection, because I was afraid they wouldn’t find me attractive. The bottom line is, yes they did find me attractive, but because I worried myself into thinking they wouldn’t, I had essentially made myself unattractive to them.

]]> By: Tracey Rissik http://www.thethoughts.co.uk/thoughts/worrying-about-what-other-people-think/comment-page-1/#comment-400 Tracey Rissik Wed, 27 Feb 2008 16:35:10 +0000 http://www.thethoughts.co.uk/thoughts/worrying-about-what-other-people-think/#comment-400 Thanks for an enlightening view on things - I've gone for too many years worrying about how I am perceived, and stressing if I think I'm not good enough ... for "them". Through a lot of self-development, life coaching, reading, reiki and other things, I'm in the happy situation where I AM beginning to care less! My well-being is my most important function, and I would do well to remember it more than I have done :-) Articles like this are great for getting people to think about our willingness to conform from a completely different viewpoint, and I commend you! Regards, Tracey Thanks for an enlightening view on things – I’ve gone for too many years worrying about how I am perceived, and stressing if I think I’m not good enough … for “them”. Through a lot of self-development, life coaching, reading, reiki and other things, I’m in the happy situation where I AM beginning to care less! My well-being is my most important function, and I would do well to remember it more than I have done :-)

Articles like this are great for getting people to think about our willingness to conform from a completely different viewpoint, and I commend you!

Regards,
Tracey

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